Woman of Valor - Inner Beauty

Woman of Valor - Inner Beauty

Todays media surrounds you with the idea that ‘turning into your mother’ is a bad thing. I happen to think it’s the opposite. My mother, Julie Sondhelm, is the ideal person and a true woman of valor; she displays empathy and humility, and uses these two to be the best her that she can be and create within her community. Many people ask what inner beauty is. Most would answer that inner beauty refers to the positive aspects of someone’s character. I would add that a person with inner beauty is not only pleasing to be around, but is a role model for others as they aspire to possess the very characteristics that make these people great. The difference between outer beauty and inner beauty is that outer beauty is pleasing to the eye, and inner beauty is pleasing to the soul.

Living through tough times and making it through them helps create an atmosphere of empathy and ability to relate. My mother is able to face adversity head-on, with no fear. She seems to persevere and overcome every challenge she is given. Being alone, having no money and no where to go, she managed to pick herself up off her feet and get her life back on track. She had no one to rely one after being kicked out of her house after experiencing a broken relationship with her mother, so she had to figure out how to survive on her own. She enrolled in IUPUI, put herself through college, married and had two wonderful children. Although her marriage of seven years ended up in divorce, she managed to be the mother she had hoped to have for herself. I think that one thing that mom keeps in the back of her mind, is too be a better mom that her mom was to her; I believe that this is the reason she has become such a great mom and person, because she strives to give her kids a mom she never had, and a life she never had. Even when I’m upset or hurt, she manages to make my crises, no matter how small they may be, better. When it’s a rainy day outside, her smile radiates the whole room. She can transform something ugly into something much more beautiful. As a social worker, my mother has seen the worst of the worst. Despite such ugliness and trouble in the world, she manages to see only the good in her clients, even when all they have done in their life is mess up. It is sometimes hard to see behind the exterior of people, but I am lucky to learn from my mother who sees people for who they truly are everyday.

My mother not only has the gift to see people for who they really are, but artfully uses it to change those around her. Not only is my mom a social worker, she is my own personal therapist and confidante. For example, if I am in a fight with one of my friends, she tries to find a explanation for whatever they did that hurt me. It makes me see that there might be more than one perspective to every story, and it has helped me grow to be a more well-rounded friend to my peers. Having faced adversity head on, my mom empathizes with each and everyone of her clients, because she knows what it is like to be alone and need a helping hand. While many people may be empathetic to struggling people, my mother does more than feel for the. She uses her gift of empathy to make a positive change.

“You know more than you think you know, just as you know less than you want to know.”- Oscar Wilde. This quote proves that humility comes from knowing, but thinking that you don’t. My mom is the perfect amount of humble and confident; she knows her impact, but refuses to take credit. For quite some time, she has been working a kosher food pantry for Jewish people in the community that have no where else to turn. This act of kindness takes substantial personal commitment and time, which she gives up freely. Instead of gloating and relishing in her own recognition for her deeds, she chooses instead to celebrate the contributions of others who help her to make the pantry a success. One day, I hope I can learn how to appreciate life for what it truly is and be content with what I have accomplished without seeking external validation.

My mother seems to loves others unconditionally, even when people treat her poorly, and donft give her the praise she deserves. For example, when I treat my mother poorly, I am stricken with heart-wrenching guilt. Although sometimes I pretend like I donft care about what my mom has to say, her opinion means the world to me. Sometimes my mom will just turn to me with her radiant smile and say gI am so lucky to have you in my life,h which makes all the difference because I know that she will always love me no matter what mistakes I may make in my life.

TRUE HUMILITY IS THE ABILITY TO SEE G-D’S HAND IN ALL THAT YOU DO- TO RECOGNIZE THAT IT IS ALL POSSIBLE THROUGH G-D. EVEN AFTER ALL THE GOOD MY MOM HAS DONE FOR HER FAMILY AND COMMUNITY, SHE CREDITS IT ALL TO G-D. MY MOM REGULARLY LOOKS TO G-D FOR GUIDANCE AND IS CONFIDENT IN HIS PLAN FOR HER LIFE. SHE DEMONSTRATES HUMILITY BY ALLOWING G-D TO DIRECT HER LIFE. SHE OFTEN SAYS SHE IS BLESSED FOR HAVING SUCH A GREAT LIFE, AND SHE REALIZES THAT ALL THE BAD THAT HAS HAPPENED HAS MADE HER STRONGER AND HAS MOLDED HER INTO THE PERSON SHE IS TODAY.

ALL OF THESE QUALITIES MAKE UP THE EXTRAORDINARY PERSON THAT I CALL MY MOM. SHE IS UNLIKE ANYONE ELSE THAT I KNOW. I AM BLESSED BY EVERY DAY THAT I GET TO SPEND WITH HER. SHE IS ABLE TO LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST BY CARING FOR OTHERS AND BEING TRULY SATISFIED WHILE DOING IT. SHE HAS MORE INNER BEAUTY THAN ANYONE I KNOW, AND I AM SO FORTUNATE TO NOT ONLY HAVE HER IN MY LIFE, BUT TO HAVE HER AS MY MOM. I THINK THE MEDIA SHOULD REASSESS IT’S IDEA OF TURNING IN TO YOUR MOM AS A BAD THING, BECAUSE I WISH TO BE AS GREAT AS HER. POPULAR MEDIA IS WRONG: TURNING INTO MY MOTHER WOULD BE A GIFT.