Tougher Laws for Date Rape

Tougher Laws for Date Rape

When you think of a date then you are thinking about two people having fun together or couples having a good time at a movie or a fast food restaurant. Many people in today’s society think that date rape isn’t a crime which they let many rapists go free. But because rape evokes images of fear, lack of control and violence, victims need to know what date rape is, their effect, and how to prevent it from happening.

There are many definitions of date rape or acquaintance rape in different books .In Andrea Parrot book, it said that “Acquaintance rape is a forced sexual intercourse or other sexual act between two people who know each other and Date rape is a forced sexual intercourse that occurs between a dating couple or while on a date” (179) . There are so many women and men begin rape almost every year in the United State . Sometime family members can be rape without them knowing that he or she had been rape because there is a drug called Rohypnol. It also said in Andrea Parrot book (180) “that some people force other into sex without his or her knowledge or consent . Rohypnol is a type of drug called a benzodiazepine, which is produced by Hoffmann- La Roche in Mexico-, is sedative.” Chris Jackson Book (108) said, “In America that twenty-two percent of women report being forced to submit to a sexual act at sometime . Only two percent of men report being forced into having sex and almost one-third of college student report having experienced forced sex. It may or may not come as a surprise that among the women who had a sexual act forced upon them, only four percent of the instances involved a stranger, nine percent of a spouse, nineteen percent acquaintance, twenty-two percent someone the victim knew well and forty-six percent someone with whom the victim was in love.” Mary E. Williams Book (9) from Julie A. Allison said, “Rape is committed by the person the victim knows. Since societal attitudes dictate that woman should be responsible for maintaining sexual boundaries in male/female relationships, women are often blamed for their own victimization and the serious consequences of acquaintance rape are often unacknowledged . There so many myths that people keep on hearing about rape, but some of them are true. For example, in Shuker-Haines Book it said, “If a woman flirts with a man means she wants to have sex with him is a myth, but the true said flirting is the fun part of dating, but a woman flirts with a man is not singling that she wants to have sex”(12) . The law in the United States for rape is a serious crime and in parrot book it said, “Acquaintance rape and date rape are against the law. All rape is against the law, but the law has not been applied consistently. There are two ways to precede under the law as an acquaintance rape victims: you may seek criminal prosecution or file a civil suit .” There so many laws that deals with rape, but in the Bible from the book of Deuteronomy, which is a Hebrew law said, “If an unmarried virgin is raped the offender must pay the woman’s father 50 shekels and marry the woman, but this law reflects the belief that a rapist could atone for his crime by marrying his victim”. There is a story in the Bible that is related to a rape story and it in the old testament of second Samuel chapter 13:1-14.

According to Parrot book it said that most victims who have been sexually assaulted experience what he refers to as the “Rape Trauma Syndrome”. Rape trauma syndrome has many different phases such as crisis, disorientation, and reorientations . He said that the crisis phase immediately follow the rape, yet the victim may be calm (in shock), or upset (angry or guilty), or inappropriately carefree. Although people have the crisis phase they feel like it the end of the world for them. The second stage or phase is disorientation is where the victims are not sure how to act or may have trouble interacting with other. The last phase is the reorientations that mean the victim feels stronger and has some idea how and why the rape happened . Even though rape victims feel like it their fault for being raped but it is the rapist fault not the victims, as you can see there are four kind of rapist that people should be aware of . In Lindquist book, he listed four kinds of personality rapist in his book. The four kind of rapist is the Gentleman Rapist, a Control Freak, a Revenge Rapist, and Sexual Sadist (53-57) . He said, “The gentleman rapist is the most common type of date or acquaintance rapist because of his gentlemanly behavior after the rape, but a control freak is more violent than the gentleman rapist and he may initiate a sudden attack and he also describe the Revenge rapist personality type as a retaliating against women, but the rapist strike quickly with a high level of violence and take possession or trophy from his victims. The last rapist that linguist book describes is Sexual Sadist the term indicates that this individual is angry and get excited by thrill of the crime . The rapist intends to kill his victims and plan extensively counts on the intended victim to provide him with an opportunity. In William book it said, “Acquaintance rapes often occurs at different times from rapes by strangers, but date rape are more likely to occur on weekends between the hours of 10 p.m. and 2 a.m.”(16) and in Parrot book it said, “Most incident of rape happen between two people who know each other.” For example, they may be casual acquaintance, dates, friends, family of the friends, classmates, or fellow workers, but most date rape happens in one of the two people’s home. The FBI has estimated that more than one in ten rapes is reported to the police, but most of the reports rapes are stranger rapes”. (25-26) In William book, Mary Gaitskill the author from bad behavior said, “Many commentators claim that date rape is not a serious violation antirape activists have exaggerated the incidence of and the effects of a date rape . Furthermore, these critics charge that some feminist activists belittle women by encouraging them to view themselves as helpless victims of male aggressions”.

Sometime gang rape can be very dangerous, but in parrot book it said, “Gang rape is forced sexual intercourse by more than one assailant or to force to have sexual intercourse with several persons”(180) . Many gang rapes or party rapes often happen at college party or at clubs, but you should be aware of rapes of any kind . Sometimes married people also have trouble but when your husband or wife has been raped than it is called Marital Rape (179). The meaning of martial rape is a force sexual act that is between husband and wife. Many states do not believe that marital rape is a crime but it is against the law. Any woman or man can be a victim of rape or sexual assault, but rape happen to women of all social classes, of all ages and occupations. In Chris Jackson book, it said that “daytime date are usually safer than nighttime ones, especially early in the relationship”, but I have to disagree because many time on the news you always hear younger and older women begin rape in the daytime and nighttime so to me you have to be very careful about where you go on a date .

There are ways to protect yourself and other from rape. One way is to not drink alcohol or take any drug while on a date or at a party. Another way to protect yourself is taking defense class or have a weapon with you to defend yourself against a rapist. The last and important thing is to have a good friend to watch your back at a party or while you walk home or your car at work. In Shuker-Haines Book, said that “it is important to treat your date with respect and yourself”. Also if your friend has been rape then you should listen what they have to say and help them the best way you can and always know the fact of your friend rape. Sometime rape victims don’t want to discuss the details to his or her parent but they should always report to the police that a person has been rape or a close friend.

In conclusion, people should learn how to prevent rape from happen to anybody . Even though rape and sexual assault is a serious crime and it is against the law; that mean if somebody get rape that person will go to jail for rape or sexual assaults and the rapist will never go free. Today society will be once again free from the terror of rape and sexual assaults .

References:
Curtis, David G. “Perspective on Acquaintance Rape” The American academy of experts in Traumatic Stress, Inc. 1997 4-11-2007

Jackson, Chris. “Date Rape” The Black Christian Singles Guide To Dating and Sexuality. Michigan: Zondervan. (1999) 107-114

Lindquist, Scott. Date rape prevention book the Essential guide for Girls and Women. Naperville: Sourcebook, Inc. (2000) 53-57

Parrot, Andre. Coping with Date Rape and Acquaintance Rape .New York: Rosen Publishing Group, Inc. 1999

Shuker- Haines, Frances. Everything you need to know about Date Rape. New York: Rosen Publishing Group, Inc. 1998

William, Mary E. Date Rape. Ed. San Diego, CA: Greenhaven Press. 1998